My 12 yr old (acts more like a 15 yr old) has gone off the rails abit, she's really angry, she constantly breaks thinks throws things & can be very cruel with her words. Like I tell people I'm ill not stupid, she doesn't get away with anything & sometimes I struggle because of my depression & illness I'm always home & here for her to talk to or hug & I think that's a good thing as one of my issues from my childhood was my mum was hardly around & I didn't have anywhere safe to talk or turn. On Sunday after one of her outbursts I broke down sobbing as I've tried every angle possible behaviourally & communication, I told her that she's abusive, I don't deserve to be treated that way & if my eldest (21 has her own home) treated me like that I wouldn't have anything to do with her, she broke down & apologised & has been great since then which has been 4 days now, it may not seem alot, but to us it's massive. She's posted a picture of us on fb saying she loves me, keeps saying it at the end of phone calls in front of her friend which she wouldn't have done before as she was embarrassed by me. Don't get me wrong she's still upto teenage tricks but I'm not daft & had a very different upbringing to her, brought myself up really & it's funny at minute as she thinks I'm psychic as I'm calling her out on stuff that she has done secretly- she says how do you do that, how do you know 😂😂😂, Let's hope things don't deteriorate. She is like the girl with a curl in her hair, she has such a big heart & when she's good she's amazing & when she's bad she's horrid. It's always been crucial to me to spend time with my girls & to keep communication going, so I need to be approachable too, just trying my best my relationship with my eldest daughter is beautiful, just protecting my 12 yr old caterpillar as best I can at the minute. I frequently feel like a crap mum, learnt last week that my youngest had had a birthday party last year I knew nothing about, I said to my eldest where was I I don't remember it, she said no mum I had to take over as you were too ill (mental state) you weren't fit to do it or come. I'm not beating myself up today as after 2 nights of insomnia I'm thrilled I slept last night. Take care people, families & the dynamics are a curious & complex thing 😅

Hmmm yes, self dout is a killer. I talk openly with my kids, they need to know the truth, they are my life.

Happy days may thay last x

My kids are older and make it so hard sometimes to want to be a mom. I get so exhausted with the resistance, lack of respect and constant arguing. I know people say that kids turn out how they do because of the way you parent or lack of parenting. But doesnt there come a point where they are who they are going to be. You can try to be the best parent you can be and maybe its not always enough. I feel like they have drained me and have no more to give.

Hiya, yep sometimes I hate being a parent (I have 4 kids) I envy people who dont have kids and have so much free time and can just do what they want, then I snap out of it because I love my kids, all kids can drive their parents crazy, and I couldnt live without them. Its hard when you have a bad day though, its like they go out of their way to push your buttons lol. I totally understand xo