Dearest Dark Angel, I have been making advances with my key worker, using mindfulness and meditation and this has helped me so much more than drugs, I hope that you find this helpful, I am sorry that I cannot answer more than I would like due to a very limited data 😯

Yes and No. I do think it is possible. It seems like some of what you are describing are habits - like smoking for example. That behavior or habit can be changed if the person wants and tries and gets help if needed. I believe the same could be said about self harm with the right coping tools or counseling. But when people hurt you or abuse you, that is more than just a bad or negative habit - it's partly their personality and soul coming through. In my opinion if the core of a person is bad, something like that is much harder for them to change even if they want to.

Like any ongoing disease it does take alot of hard work. As far as getting hurt, it is up to you or me or anyone to decide that we won't allow hurt time after time. Forgiveness can be a dangerous thing, to us, if we don't say "no More'!

Google cognitive behavioural therapy and try it. You won't be sorry, but you have to persevere. CBT helps rid you of bad habits or negative thoughts.

Change is possible, I started to use heroin and have been clean for 15years, most people self harm by drinking alcohol and smoking. We all have scars