I would be someone that would ask because self harm wouldn't occur to me as an answer. I would think it was some kind of accident. Actually now that I've read this I will be more sensitive and I wouldn't ask. Anyway, handle it like any other rude question, just give "the look", ignore the question and change the subject.

have you ever read some of the sarcastic quotes in reply to those who r rude. i work as a mental health nurse and have scars of my own. initially i was ashamed about them but i got to the point poeple asked were interested and i i was unwell. others u can tell are been sarcy so i give scarcy responses back like
it sucks having a husband whos a sadist
there not cuts there hives, im allergic to idiots.
look at your scars and frown; you dont have any?
OmG wTF where did they come from then smile or scream.
people are ignorant and dont really understand self harm so let them talk. at least your important enough in there sad little life to be spoke about!

I had a few on my arm that I covered with a tattoo but the ones on my thighs are initials that I put there. Most people don't say anything because they are obvious self inflicted, but if they do, my response depends on who and how they ask.

@A MyDepressionTeam Member thanks :). and i guess some selfharm scars can look more deliberate than others if that makes sense ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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A MyDepre...

I have had a lifetime collection of self-harm scars. I used to resent them & people's reactions....they were rude. As I got older if people who were actually interested in a caring way, I'd share my story (you never know who it will inspire) Rude people I give bullshit, made-up answers...then they realize how stupid their questions were. Now in later years, I just tell people that they are "battle scars" from where life tried to break me & couldn't...then I just smile & let them decide how to process it. I am nor ashamed of my life -- if they are decent about it, I am always happy to share my story.