Sometimes, I think we associate sex with approval. We sort of get emotionally attached to the act of sex. Sex is the sharing of love and respect between spouses. Help her out in the house. That is incredibly sexy. Play with her. Make it fun. Give her a no-strings-attached massage. Treat her like she is the most important, lovely, important thing in your life. Her, not your sex drive. You will feel better and she will be more responsive.

I can relate to this to an extent. While I'm not a sex addict, I do understand the feeling of needing regular reassurance. I'm the type that needs to be told that I'm loved and appreciated on the regular or I will begin to think it's not true. Sex is a type of reassurance (you must be doing something right if she wants you.) So maybe that's where that comes from. Also, I know sometimes on a bad day that I don't want to be completely left alone, all I want is affection and cuddles from my boyfriend. The closeness and knowing someone is there makes me feel safe. Maybe you also enjoy being so close to her.

I have the same problem. It gets even worse when you truly want that kind of physical attention and you're not sure how/if you should initiate it out of fear. I'm scared that my partner might think that I do not value or intimacy anymore (which isn't true) or just use him as a distraction.

We all have habits, vices and addictions.....I guess it is our way to attempt to provide comfort for our wounds, whether we are aware of them or not. I'm not addicted to sex, but I am an alcoholic and addicted to pain killers, I'm at a point where I don't recieve pleasure from these addictions anymore, but I must have them in order to block out my real issues. I completely understand how you must feel, I agree with the advice the other commenters have made, being open with your partner is the best advice I could give.....my husband has been by my side through thick and thin and is my biggest support, I try to tell him everything so that he has some level of understanding. Also don't be afraid to seek out therapy for your sex addiction...maybe you and your wife could attend together, that way she will feel like she is included and is assisting to help you could mean she is part of the solution. Good luck!

I am married and I am a sex addict. There is nothing wrong with having a strong sex Drive. I'm someone who constantly has urges and my husband doesn't want to be intimate 4+ times a day, and I don't expect him too. It's not wrong what you are feeling. It only becomes wrong when you turn to other addictions to satisfy your needs. I'm so sorry this adds to your depression. Communicate with your wife, be open with your needs and negotiate. Let her no how you feel and how it adds to your depression. Never be forceful or get angry because that can scare her. I know it's frustrating. Stay strong!