I have found counselors helpful. Some were great some not so good but I was determined to get something out of the time and money I put into therapy. Perhaps before you start with a counselor you can do some research yourself. By learning from others on this board. and by reading. Try different things and keep a diary about how different things work for you. You sound like a sharp person. You could learn a lot by research. In meantime in the back of your mind keep the idea of a counselor. Good luck

It sounds to me like you really really need someone you can talk to and trust and someone who really understands you. I've had several therapists and not all of them have really helped me, but I did find a female therapist I really connected with and the counseling was great. Some mental health clinics require clients see a therapist/counselor if they are seeing a psychiatrist and receiving medication. Could you talk to your psychiatrist(s) and share your concerns about your past experiences with counselors and see if there are any other options.??? There are always good therapists and not so good therapists. Some people seek the help of pastors or clergy, or some other helping professional...good luck...

Hi Kaye1217. I've also been told things like "make friends, lose weight," and many other totally stupid things someone who because of depression, anxiety and many other things can not do. And to me there is nothing more hurtful when the advice comes from someone who has no idea what's going on. I keep my feelings and diagnosis from my husband's family. He's one of 8 and most of his brothers and sisters have been known to make fun of people with depression. They don't believe there is such a thing as depression.

You have every right to your opinions and the decisions you make. Keep at it and you will find the right therapist. I'll send some big bear hugs in your direction and know I'll think about you. xxx

I hate just get over it. You have to move on. Stop thinking negative thoughts. If it were that easy dont you think i would have done it by now. I dont like feeling this way. I dont like thinking this way.

I can only tell you from my own experience about how I found a counselor who was the right fit for me. I have been in counseling off and on my entire life starting when I was in the third grade. I would not trade the counselor I have for all the money in the world. I made up a list of questions that I wanted her to answer for me and I also told her what I wanted to work on. I learned that I am my own best advocate and unless I stand up for myself nobody else will know what I want or expect to gain from them.