After 20 years of marriage and accepting with therapy, what I always suspected, my husband is my trigger. I'm at the point where I don't think it's fair to ask him or expect him to change who he is because that's not natural. So I'm making plans to leave. The therapy I started is to help me mentally prepare for all the up coming emotions to follow the leave. And to help keep my head clear and continue to recognize/acknowledge/feel through my triggers and how to move emotionally forward and not get stuck in my own brain fog.

Yes,most of d times, I see/feel d trigger (s) to my depression w/c is usually accompanied by anxiety. How I prepare for it: For e.g., a situation where a house guest is coming over my place to stay in for a few days or a whole week: I prepare for it ahead of time (the house cleaning,esp.d room where he/she's gonna sleep in; d foods to serve -it helps to make a meal plan for d duration of d visit ; if my guest is new to our place, i list/search & suggest places of interest he/she may want to go to...) you get d picture. Otherwise,if i dont do these, Id feel highly anxious that I might start making up alibis to postpone or cancel my house guest's visit...or if I dont prepare ahead of time and my guest is already here, I sometimes 'break down' into a depressive or panic episode in d middle of his/her stay, bec.of this feeling of " unpreparedness." If this happens,and I breakdown, I (or my husband) may simply explain to my guest that I just need a time off -like a day ,alone,in my bedroom where i rest and recuperate -bec.id feel mainly,very tired ( physically n mentally), then once rested, I go back and function to my hosting again.,or back to my normal daily routine.
If d trigger is a person, not a situation -i try to maintain as much distance fr.d person as i can. If i have to communicate w/d person, id prefer only in writing,such as emailing or texting. I can apply my self assertiveness better ,this way.

I often try to figure out what triggers things for me. Sometimes I can figure it out and sometimes I have no idea. It can be very frustrated. I try not to get too upset because it doesn't help and makes me feel worse.

I don't think any one thing triggers it. I know when I start feeling the "fog" take over, I can't pinpoint!

Prepare....? Coping mechanisms..? Sometimes I don’t realize my reaction to the triggers until it is too late and I’ve already “expressed” my opinions. Then I have to try and calm down... inwardly as I try to figure out if it was in fact a trigger.... or if I was honestly giving my rebuttal. Lol...yeah... said me never! I’m highly susceptible to my triggers. Triggers hit me so extremely hard... it’s like I want to be dead within the next few moments,m, or I want as far away as possible immediately-as in time travel, hit a button now, immediately. Of course, I figure out, it’s a trigger and I owe apology(ies) ! Sometimes I get lucky and apology is accepted - sometimes not so much, and I’ve dug a deeper hole..Then the next trigger and.. well... it’s all circular really. Sigh