She treats you the way because you let her. Codependent people live their lives trying to please other people. Especially the ones they love. You can't buy her love. You can't make her love you the way you love her. No one has a "good" life. A life without problems. You need to have a heart to heart with her and tell her how you feel. if she doesn't want to listen then you can't make her. Quit trying so hard to please her and back off on the attention you give her. You deserve better. No one should have to beg someone to love them. If your work hours permit it the two of you should get in counseling. If she won't go with you then go by yourself. And stick with it. Things are not gong to change overnight. My prayers are with you.