It's ironic that I'm seeing this question tonight. I'm feeling the same way & just deactivated my FB account so I didn't have to see it smack in the face. I think this small group of women are my friends but the 4 of them are constantly doing things together and I don't even get asked. I'm 46 and am wondering, at my age, how do you go about making new friends. It's difficult, sad and lonely at times. I look around and see groups of friends every day and wonder why I don't have those same relationships. It came up w one of these women tonight and she had this to say:

Honestly, it often comes down to what a person needs for the day (we all bring different things) or who they haven’t seen in awhile or who they think will or won’t enjoy something. But we all get jealous when we see friends out doing something we might have been up for joining... And we all have to work on those feelings and figure out how to handle them. Because even though we know it’s unrealistic to all go everywhere all together, it still hurts.

This was my reply:
It's not jealousy but it does stink. It makes you question who's really a friend. It makes you wonder if your company's really ever wanted. It's just a downer & I need more positivity in my life. I don't want to be where I'm not wanted anyway ... no matter who needs what that day, who hasn't hung out in a while or if others decide for me what I may or may not enjoy doing. It's only unrealistic to all go anywhere all together when everyone isn't included. I'm doing what I need to bring positivity and enjoyment to my life and in my life. And FB isn't it.

We both deserve friends in our lives. People who care about us and all we have to offer. It just may not be as easy for us as others to find it. Be patient. You'll find a group that appreciates you that you jive with. Enjoy happy moments not chunks of time. The happy moments will become chunks of time and friendships will be formed. I truly believe this with my whole heart as hard as it may be to get there.

I have lost many friends but I don't believe in friendship. I have my family and I take care of myself I am confident enough to be on my own, I have no problem dropping people that don't get me.