Have you ever watched any of the "Intervention" shows? It gives you an insight into some of the things both sides go through. In my life I found that you can'l love someone enough to make them change. They will go so far down and some of them get sober and some don't. On our end of it, yes, you will be taken down with him. I got to the point where I was turning into someone that 'I' didn't like anymore. I wanted to survive so I left. It got to every day he would tell me he's going to kill himself during deer season. Then he didn't have the nerve to do it every year himself so he hired an almost stranger to do it for him. He finally did go into rehab and got sober but then we didn't like each other anymore, so we broke it off for good. But I couldn't stand listening to it anymore, I started to hate the way he looked, the passing out all the time, the smell, and I somehow put it on myself and became very angry and mean. I just had to stay away from it. I had to or who knows what might have happened.

Jo, are you involved with AlAnon or NarcAnon? There's loads of info online about these support groups for family of alcoholics or addicts. Please access their wisdom. You are not alone. 💝

Get out ASAP 😇

Thank you, Jon. For saving your life, and recognizing the impact it had. That goes a long way in this old gal's book. 🤗

No. I was the alcoholic and addict that someone was in a relationship with. And I'm definitely familiar with the damage it caused my exes. I didn't really realize until I got clean and sober.